Can you feel it, friends? We are 14 weeks in to the course. So much behind us, at yet isn’t it beautiful that we still have 17 weeks to deepen, discover, and continue to companion with ourselves and one another? Today we explored the three Stages of Progress — striving, disillusionment, and radical acceptance — inviting discussion about the non-linear path we walk as we deepen our self-compassion practice. The star of the show was striving, which seems to perpetually hum in the background for many of us, a constant companion through our day. As Nancy so gently reminded us, what is the intention of our striving? Is it a desire to somehow “hustle” for worth from somewhere/someone outside of us? Or rather, does it come from a place of worth, in which our right effort results in value-aligned self-care?
An invitation for the coming week is to pay attention to where your striving arises. What does that feel like? (Fatigue? Agitation? Weariness? Frustration?) In that moment, is it possible to re-orient yourself toward those dearly held intentions you created at the beginning of the course? How can you come home to yourself when striving is taking over? What can you let go of?
As with last week, please try for 20-30 minutes of formal practice at least 5x per week … and if resistance arises, surrender to what you can compassionately manage. 10 minutes. 5 minutes. Any amount. As always, continuing your informal practice — experimenting with both yin and yang aspects of self-compassion.
Rick Hanson Video:
If possible, we strongly encourage you to listen to Rick Hanson’s talk on Hardwiring Happiness using his H.E.A.L model, which offers concrete steps for offsetting the negativity bias by letting in the good things in your life. Great talk and the basis for our meeting in Week 15.
Your invitation for this week is to rest. And/or if there are past CIs you wish to dip into, feel free to do that. There is no requirement to do so.
- Optional One-on-One Progress Sessions with David and Aimee are now available for sign-ups. This is simply an opportunity to talk about any specific concerns our challenges you’re having with your self-compassion practice right now. The sessions last 30-45 minutes, depending on your needs. We look forward to connecting with you one-on-one!
- Gentle reminder that May 30 is the fifth Wednesday of the month, which means it’s a rest week (no class).
- This week’s video recording: password is K1ndness
- Rick Hanson’s talk on Hardwiring Happiness using his H.E.A.L model
- Greater Good article sent along by Rose Mina about why compassion is so critical to our mindfulness practice.
- The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
- Summary of Brené Brown’s ideas concerning speaking our own truth, especially when it differs from what is externally expected of us.
- B.B. quote David read in class:
“When we can let go of what other people think and own our story, we gain access to our worthiness—the feeling that we are enough just as we are and that we are worthy of love and belonging. When we spend a lifetime trying to distance ourselves from the parts of our lives that don’t fit with who we think we’re supposed to be, we stand outside of our story and hustle for our worthiness by constantly performing, perfecting, pleasing, and proving. Our sense of worthiness—that critically important piece that gives us access to love and belonging—lives inside of our story.”
May your practice and commitment serve to enliven, strengthen, and deepen your experience of this one precious life.