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Three questions:
What’s alive for you right now?


During the past five months, we’ve spent time deepening our mindfulness and self-compassion skills. In the coming weeks, we’ll take those refreshed skills and use them specifically to support us in working with difficult emotions.

To mark this important transition, we’ll be doing a Creative Invitation that invites us each to rest, regroup and to invite the following: What’s really on my heart right now? Which three questions are alive for me now, as we move into this next session of our self-compassion study? Perhaps then we can bring those questions with us as we enter into this new phase of the course.

Through this Creative Invitation, we’ll allow intuition to explore some of those questions and simply meet what emerges with curiosity, openness … and possibly delight.

Materials:
  • Three pieces of blank paper: 5×7 inches or so is great.
  • Magazines you don’t mind cutting up
  • Scissors
  • Glue or tape
  • Watercolor or other paint you love
Process:

Arrive. Settle. Touch in with some inner space.

From this place, ask the following: “What questions are most alive for me right now?” 

Many could emerge. You’ll know which ones want the most attention. Choose three such questions. They could have to do with your spiritual life (including your self-compassion practice), your professional life, your relationships, and more. No topics are off limits. The simple wish is to attend to those questions which are most alive for you right now.

Next…

  1. Write one of your questions on the back of each sheet of paper (one question per sheet).
  2. Then, flip over your three papers and shuffle them around a bit so that you can no longer see which paper has which question written on it. Let go of the questions, and please resist the temptation to peek for the duration of the exercise, knowing that synchronicity is the main operator for this exercise.
  3. Next, pull out your paints and brush (or other supplies if you wish) and simply begin to place color on each of the three sheets. It’s important during this and all steps that you listen deeply from the source of your quiet mind and respond as you feel drawn to respond. Tune in to impulse if you can. Noticing when plans, judgements, and fears try to take over. Simply notice and name them, turning back each time to the breath and emergent impulses to color, line, and pattern.
  4. Once you feel that your three panels have been adequately colored (You’ll know when.), choose a magazine and begin to flip through, allowing the images and words to wash over you. Choose an image that calls to you, and cut it out. Again, not thinking too hard.
  5. Paste or tape the image you’ve cut out to one of the three sheets you’ve painted.
  6. Continue this look, feel, cut, paste process until each of your three panels is fully covered in images and color. Reminding you to ALLOW the images to be pasted on any panel they wish, staying out of critical and rational mind as best you can.
  7. Once everything’s covered, sit back and look at all three pages. Is there anything you’d like to switch around, add, replace, remove, or embellish? Do so. You will know when you are finished.
  8. When you’re finally done, turn over each sheet, one by one, revealing the question on the back side of each mini-collage.
Questions for reflection:
  • Did you see a relationship between the question you wrote on the back of each sheet and the images that assembled themselves on the front?
  • What (if any) insights have emerged for you?
  • Are you inspired to take a new action as a result of what came up during this exercise?
Taking it further:
  • Revisit your collages over the coming days and weeks and see whether new insights, questions, or actions emerge for you.
Examples:
Panel 1 of 3 Question: "How can I begin to occupy my own power more readily in the world and in relation to others?"
Panel 1 of 3 Question: “How can I occupy my own power more readily in the world and in relation to others?”
Insight: When I related the images with the question, I literally laughed out loud with joy at how uncannily clearly the image aligned with the question. This collage served as affirmation that in order to occupy my power in the world, I needed to simply embrace what is beautiful and true about myself (as reflected in the mirror on the page).
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Panel 2 of 3 Question: Body, how can I best support your healing?
Insight: This collage offered some reassurance to recent health concerns. I interpreted this as encouraging me to not get too bogged down in worry. To care for my body in simple ways: good nutrition focusing on hydration and nutritious fats; plenty of play; gratitude practices.
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Panel 3 of 3 Question: How can I best support my daughter’s needs to individuate within the context of our family’s best health and my highest good?
Insight:This panel is not as straightforward as the others for me to understand, so my plan is to revisit it often. The message I’m taking away at this time is that allowing my daughter to “leave home” gracefully will be supported by a) purging some of the physical objects that I’m hanging on to (mostly my daughter’s belongings from early in her childhood) and also by giving voice to the untold stories of my own childhood … perhaps by sharing them with my daughter, but perhaps sharing in other forms as well. The “together at last” speaks to me of personal integration—a coming together with myself.

This Creative Invitation is inspired by Christine Valters Paintner.

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